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Should You Pick Out Your Own Engagement Ring?

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Your relationship isn’t cookie cutter, so why should your engagement be?

One way to think outside of the wedding box is by picking out your own engagement ring. Though it’s not the traditional scenario, many of today’s brides are actively involved in shopping for their own engagement rings.

For some, it makes perfect sense; after all, you’re going to wear your ring for the rest of your life, why not make sure that it’s exactly what you want? Of course, you love your hubby-to-be and trust his taste (mostly, anyway) but admit it … you don’t want to end up wearing some gaudy bauble for the next few decades.

On the other hand, if you’ve already picked your ring out yourself, you’re certainly not going to be surprised when he slips it on your finger for the first time.

Let’s explore the pros and cons of this tricky issue.

First, the positives:

  1. You get the ring you really want. Perhaps the best reason to choose your own ring is that you’re pretty much guaranteed to be happy with it. After all, you know what you like better than anyone else, and your guy may not understand the finer points of your personal style – maybe you don’t particularly like certain setting styles or stone shapes.
  2. You can enjoy the experience of shopping together. Shopping for jewelry is always fun, but shopping for engagement rings with your man takes the experience to a new level. He’ll get to know what you like and dislike, and together you can find the perfect ring.
  3. You can bond by designing a ring together. On a similar note, you can design the ring together. Working on a fun and creative project is a great way to grow closer as a couple.
  4. He may save money. Some guys seem to think that they have to prove their love by buying the biggest, flashiest ring out there. But you may prefer a subtler, more sophisticated look. Not only will you end up with a classier ring, he’ll probably save money by not buying a 10-carat monstrosity.

Now, the cons:

  1. It’s not a surprise. There’s something about being surprised with an engagement ring out of the blue that’s unique, whether he hides it in a glass of champagne or simply slips it on your finger unannounced.
  2. You’ll know how much he spent. While some couples are open about their finances even before they’re married, others tend to keep their economic particulars on the down low. Your guy might not be comfortable with you knowing exactly how much – or how little – he’s spending.
  3. You don’t want to be pushy. Though you may have very definite ideas about how you want your ring to look, it can feel a bit strange to direct someone when they’re making a major purchase. You may be a princess, but you don’t want to come across as too entitled.
  4. It breaks with tradition. Traditionally, the bride’s involvement in the engagement ring-buying process has been minimal. Back in grandma’s day, it would have been unheard of!

But, this isn’t grandma’s day – it’s your day. And whether you choose to participate fully in picking out engagement rings or prefer to let yourself be surprised, your ring will be a treasured symbol of your relationship.

{GB-Guest Blogger} Maire has been always been bridesmaid and never the bride. This has not stopped her from buying her own diamond rings.

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