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How to Say “No” To A Traditional Wedding

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Many women dream of their wedding day for years before it finally happens, but those dreams do not always include things like a traditional ceremony in a church, a big white dress and a decadent wedding cake. While some traditions still remain in place, others are slowly being considered old-fashioned by new generations of brides and grooms, and are being phased out.

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If you are one of those couples, you can take comfort in knowing that couples nowadays are making choices about their wedding for themselves, and not on traditions. So what has been changing and how can you say no to having what is considered a traditional wedding? We offer some highlights and suggestions below.

Choose a Humanist Ceremony Instead of a Religious One

In a world filled with different religions and beliefs, many couples are opting for a ceremony called a ‘humanist ceremony’, where the focus is more personal and based on the couple. However, the couple, in order to be married by law, would still have to have a civil wedding as well. Humanist ceremonies are symbolic and used in the place of religious ones.

You Can See One Another Before the Wedding with a ‘First Look’

Traditionally, the groom first sees his bride when she is escorted down the aisle by a loved one, usually her father. The new trend, however, is for couples to take first look photographs before the ceremony, where they see one another for the first time. This is in part because couples may want to capture the look in their partners’ eyes when they see one another for the first time. The anticipation photos as well as the ‘big reveal’ photos make a first look photoshoot very popular and definitely a break away from the traditional.

Why Have a Cake When You Can Have Other Sweets?

Gone are the days of tiered white wedding cakes as a new era of married couples ushers in stylized cakes, dressed up to capture the personalities of the couple, to the choice of cupcakes and even pies. Lets face it: wedding cakes can cost a lot of money, especially if you have a large wedding.


Some couples have decided to turn instead to things like cupcakes and pies which are cheaper, and may fit in with their theme a little better. Others still choose a tiered wedding cake, but it may be decorated non-traditionally, with the addition of video game characters or superheroes instead, capturing the couples personalities and style.

Rearrange Your Wedding Day

A wedding doesn’t have to be in the afternoon with a large reception in the evening if you don’t want it to be. Some brides are choosing to have their wedding in the morning with a brunch for their guests as the reception to keep costs down, and still others are being married at sunset with either a small reception to follow, or a breakfast reception the next morning. Most of these also allow for many ‘first look’ photos to be taken.

What is Considered ‘Traditional’ That Brides Still Want to Keep in Their Wedding?

The ‘something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue’ in Western weddings is still very popular and something that brides still want to incorporate into their wedding. How they choose to do that is completely up to them. Bouquet tosses are still on the list of things to do at a wedding, with 71% of surveyed brides saying that they wanted to have one at their reception. Remember, you can change several aspects of your wedding so that it is not considered traditional, but you can still keep traditional elements where you see fit. It is your wedding, so do as you please.


About the Author: This article was written by Theresa Gibson, savvy wedding blogger and social media manager at, a leading go-to vendor guide for brides across North America. To connect with Theresa, follow her on Facebook.




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