No matter how long you’ve been trying to meet singles online people are strong believers in sharing the love (no pun intended) and providing you with useful tips that will help you find the same kind of success at online dating as they have.
Keep your profile picture current and fresh.
Relationship expert, Janice Hoffman, says that as someone who is looking for love, you need to “look at your picture from your date’s perspective. Would you want to date you, based on your photo? You’d spend an easy $50 on dinner, so why not spend that same money and get a new picture? If you don’t have the cash, ask a friend to take some digital photos and pick a couple of good ones, including a head shot and a full-body shot.”
Slim down your focus group.
When you are looking for a job, you probably send out your resume far and wide, just hoping to get some kind of response. People tend to approach online dating in the same manner, which doesn’t always turn out so well. Instead of casting your net far and wide with the hopes of catching something—anything, try focusing your search on a certain diameter. Instead of looking for women within a 500 mile radius (who even searches that far and wide??), try looking within a 20 to 30 mile radius. Sure, you may have fewer matches, but you will also have better luck getting a response when you message them.
Create an engaging email.
“Look at your opening letter to women,” says dating expert Dr. Hu Fleming. “Make sure it’s personal and includes comments specifically about her profile, what you like about it, why you contacted her (other than that picture of her in a bathing suit), and why she should want to get to know you.”
Switch things up.
Instead of always sending the same sort of email, switch it up from time to time. Sometimes send a factual email while other times you use charm and humor to draw interest.
Rewrite your profile from time to time.
Sometimes when we create our profiles, we write the first thing that comes to mind. There’s nothing wrong with this, some people find great success by doing it this way. However, after a few weeks or months and you haven’t gotten the kind of response you were looking for, perhaps you need to redo your profile. Update it with fresh information or simply rework it so that it is more engaging and more interesting to readers.
Choose the right site for you.
Sometimes people who aren’t familiar with online dating will go with the first site they come across. Little do they realize that the particular site they are joining may not be what they are looking for. Before you join, you should do a bit of research and make sure the demographic the site caters to are the type of people you’d like to date.
Reevaluate your list of must-haves.
Some people have extremely lofty expectations when it comes to the qualities their partner must have and most of the time it is these expectations that makes it much more difficult for them to fall in love. So, look at the qualities your partner must have and see just how important they are to you.
Hire a dating coach.
Sometimes we think we are ready to go out there and date and we’ve got a good handle on things. Unfortunately, we aren’t and when we turn to our friends for help or input regarding what we are doing wrong, they’ll placate us and not tell us the truth. A dating coach will help prepare you for dating and they can even help you create that awesome profile, choose a good profile picture, and give you encouragement.
Take a step back.
If you’re finding it difficult trying to date online, simply take a break from the whole experience and go about your life. When a few months go by, return to the site and you’ll find that you’re approaching the online dating experience with a new gusto and may even have better luck this time around.
Never give up.
Online dating isn’t going to happen overnight, but it doesn’t mean you should give up. Instead, take breaks every now and again and enjoy the community as a whole. Even if you don’t find love, you may find a new friend.