In mid 2008, the film Made of Honor hit the big screens. Starring Patrick Dempsey, the film centered around a woman planning her wedding, and, the man, she wanted standing by her side on her big day (on the other side of her fiance, that is). So, did this film spark a trend? Do brides include their best male friend, and vice versa for grooms, as a man of honor, best woman, bridesman or groomswoman? There doesn’t seem to be too much of this yet, but it seems to be a wedding trend that could become mainstream as its popularity increases. However, in writing this post, it seemed there could be some questions about incorporating this into one’s wedding.
Can it work on either side of the party? The answer to this seems to be yes. Even though in the movie Dempsey plays a “man of honor,” and that’s where this trend really seems to be sitting as of right now, it really could go either way. The principal of the thing is the same for both males and females: the people included in wedding parties are often some of the most important people in both the bride and groom’s life, and that’s the same on both sides of the aisle.
Also, to take the trend one step further, consider having both the bride and groom pick someone of the opposite ex to have on their side of the wedding party. This could also help the person not feel like they stick out, and give them someone to relate to if they aren’t completely sold on the idea.
Who can the person of the opposite sex be? This trend immediately leads to including siblings or relatives. Often, grooms will put in one or two of the bride’s brothers or cousins, and vice versa, so that they can be apart of the wedding party. But, really, it would naturally make more sense for the bride to have her brother or the groom to have his sister than for each of them to have to have the other’s loved one on their respective sides. This trend really allows both the bride and groom to have their main support systems on their side.
Also, the bridesman or groomswoman doesn’t have to be family, necessarily. As said above, making your bridal party this way allows the couple to really include their closest loved ones, and if that includes friends, it leaves room to do so. Sometimes the bride’s best friend is a male and the groom’s best friend is a female, and, in a traditional bridal party, they wouldn’t be standing on their best friend’s side. Yes, by being part of the wedding party at all they are showing their unending support for the couple as a whole, but it would be even more special if each best friend could really stand at the side of both the bride and groom, and, following this trend, that can happen.
Won’t it look weird in photographs? When doing some research on this topic, a lot of people seemed to be concerned of the look of the wedding party in photographs when making a male a bridesmaid or man of honor or a female a groomsman or best woman. It seemed pretty unanimous across the board that if they are dressed in the same wedding party attire as their counterparts on the other side of the party (for example, if the man of honor wears the same tuxedo as the groomsmen) that it not only looks good, but also looks very natural. If they don’t stick out like a sore thumb, they become a cohesive part of the overall wedding party. Also, even though the man of honor may be in a tuxedo or the best woman may be in a dress, it doesn’t seem unbalanced, because there are others in the party wearing the same, or similar, ensemble.
It really boils down to who the couple wants involved in their wedding day, and what they are comfortable with breaking in terms of tradition. This is still a new idea to the wedding game, so it may be difficult for some to change the tradition. However, allowing both sexes on either side of the wedding party adds flair and emphasizes friendship, on both sides.